Will You Be Happy Being Called "Cougar" And Dating Younger Guys?Wednesday, August 12, 2015
Today people are much more accepting of a variety of different relationships whether they are relationships between people of varying ages or they be kinky in nature or anything in between. There are very few people out there who would judge you for being a cougar. There are a few people out there who will and you need to realize that you need to do what makes you happy. If dating younger guys makes you happy, go for it!
A cougar is an older woman who seeks a relationship with a younger male. Typically the male has to be around 18 years old and the woman has to be older than 34. The age for the male is variable while younger than 35 for the female typically makes you not a cougar because there is not a significant difference in age.
More young men want to date a cougar right now than any recent time. Young men want to spend time with a woman who knows what she is doing and has her life set. They don’t want to have to worry about a younger woman who keeps changing her mind on what she wants to do and does not have a solid income. Younger men are also provided with a sense of security when dating a cougar; they don’t have to worry about a flaky young lady who may disappear at any moment. Sometimes cougars are also sugar mommas who provide their partner with a financial benefit.
In return you, the cougar, gets to feel young again. Nothing feels better than being with a guy who is younger and can perform without problems. Younger men also tend to be more available than older men making it easier to have a relationship with them.
One of the great things about dating a younger guy seeking a cougar is that they expect you to be older. You don’t have to play younger than you are if you don’t want to, you can be who you are. They want someone who is still very much looking for relationship but has the maturity of an older woman.
When dating a younger man you have to be prepared for them to make mistakes and mess up, they are young after all. Younger men are still in the learning stage of their lives and by dating them you are helping them to learn more about the dating world. With the dating age lowering though this will become less and less of an issue. Kids in middle school are starting to date and learning from their mistakes. Give it a few more years and you should see younger men become more knowledgeable when it comes to dating.
You may have people who approach you saying that any relationship you enter as a cougar is doomed to fail. This is not true. Many cougars have very rewarding relationships with younger men and the men enjoy it too. Sometimes though you will encounter younger men who decide that a cougar is not what they are looking for. When this happens you just have to shrug it off and find another younger guy seeking cougars. There are plenty of fish in the see.
Not everyone will understand your relationship despite the fact they accept it. You might have to turn to alternate communities in order to find help when tough times arrive. There are plenty of communities online that are there to help you. One of the biggest communities is Fetlife. No matter your problem with dating Fetlife will support you and be there to answer questions. Because the relationships on Fetlife vary from vanilla to extremely unusual very little judgment happens there. Many cougar dating younger guy websites offer forums where cougars can ask questions to other cougars or even to younger guys.
The connotations and dating scene related to cougars has changed greatly over the years. You should have very few problems dating a younger guy if you have any at all. If dating a younger guy is what you want to do, get out there and go for it. Chances are there is a group in your area to connect you with a younger guy seeking cougars.
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